The most painful thing about being unemployed is that you have plenty of time to yourself, unfortunately you spend most of that time feeling depressed and kind of lost. In a way, it is understandable, the thoughts do not only come from within you but they come from outside influence as well, this includes the people you live with telling you how useless you are and the social media standards we have set for ourselves to portray a specific image of life suitable to please people we do not even know.
The great Steve Harvey once said, every time you wake up, you have a choice, you can either wake and be happy or wake up and be sad/mad, either way, your problems will still be there which ever path you choose. He went on to even say, the first few words you say about yourself in the morning are the most important. Positivity brings hope to your life, not a surety that it will be okay, but hope that something good will come, hope brings character and character brings action, actions bring results and results will turn to happiness. In that order.
So here are a few tips to start being positive:
1. Know what brings you down.
whether its your family members, your loved ones or a social media page that you follow that shows you a life you know you deserve, after noticing what brings you down, try by all means to avoid it. It may be harder to avoid family members completely but spending less time in the house can really help you. Stop following that social media pages where people constantly remind you how struggling you are by flashing their lavish life, instead follow motivational speaks that will remind you that its never too late.
2. Stop applying where you do not qualify, there is no such thing as a lucky break, no one will high someone who has anything short in their resume over someone who qualifies for that particular job. Even though you knew you didn’t qualify for that job, receiving a rejection letter is painful, it can lead to you feeling depressed and wanting to give up even though you knew you didn’t stand a chance, so rather you stick to what you know best and apply as hard as you can knowing that you have what it takes to get that job. Follow this “if I’m missing one, I’m applying none” even when you miss one document, DO NOT APPLY.
3. Stick to what you love, I know lately people are taught to take whatever they can because what you love will never feed you. WRONG!! every successful person there is out there started by doing what they love to get their big break, doing what you love means you have less chances of giving up, it will never feel like a “job” , you can easily grow when doing what you love because your mind already enjoys it, its easy to thing out of the box and end up being different that everyone else. “Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life” this statement is not literal, it means, when you do what you love, you will enjoy every moment of doing it so much so it doesn’t feel like you’re working.
4. Lastly, be kind to yourself, everyday when you wake up, say beautiful things about yourself, tell yourself that you look beautiful, tell yourself that you are smart, tell yourself that you deserve all the success in the world, tell yourself that you are born for great things. Programme your mind to always think of good things in life and you will attract all the good things in life. This will push you to speak confidently with people, it will open doors for people to trust you, and when people trust you they give you opportunities to better yourself. It will open spiritual doors for good things to come to you, whatever you believe in loves a confident person. It will push you to work on that dream of yours no matter how you feel, a programmed mind that is positive always sees the light in every dark day, no matter what, so when you think of good things all the time, you mind will automatically think good even in the worst case scenarios. This will not only make you confident but it will help you work everyday on your dreams and give you that hope you need that everything will work out fine.
In a nutshell, everything will be good in the end, if its not good, then its not the end. Enjoy the rest of your day. GO GET THEM!